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Etiquette Editorial

For all you newly engaged couples out there, you may not realize that are many traditional rules and etiquette that you may want to consider when you start to plan your wedding. For many, the toughest part is knowing where to begin, and we're going to do our best to guide you along one of the most exciting journeys of your life. 

First things First: Creating a Guest List

Before you can plan anything else, you must first determine how many people you will be able to invite to the wedding. Much of this decision depends on who is paying for the wedding and what the budget looks like. If your parents are footing the bill, it is usually best to sit down with mom or dad first to discuss who they want on the guest list. If both sets of parents are contributing, both you and your fiance should discuss this with each other's parents. Afterwards, the two of you may decide which friends and other guests you wish to invite.

However, not every modern bride follows the traditional rules and may choose a different route for planning. Since the wedding is about you and your fiance, it is also acceptable to first sit down with the groom to discuss who the two of you wish to invite. Once the two of you have made an initial list, you can each talk to your parents and arrive at a total number of guests.

Insider Secrets:
If you're not sure which route would be better for you, it may be best to individually discuss traditions and expectations with both the groom and your families. Asking questions and being vocal about your preferences is the best way to avoid stepping on anyone's toes and making anyone feel disrespected during the planning process.

Once you have decided on your number of guest, you can begin to scope out appropriate venues!