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Etiquette Editorial

For all you newly engaged couples out there, you may not realize that are many traditional rules and etiquette that you may want to consider when you start to plan your wedding. For many, the toughest part is knowing where to begin, and we're going to do our best to guide you along one of the most exciting journeys of your life. 

First things First: Creating a Guest List

Before you can plan anything else, you must first determine how many people you will be able to invite to the wedding. Much of this decision depends on who is paying for the wedding and what the budget looks like. If your parents are footing the bill, it is usually best to sit down with mom or dad first to discuss who they want on the guest list. If both sets of parents are contributing, both you and your fiance should discuss this with each other's parents. Afterwards, the two of you may decide which friends and other guests you wish to invite.

However, not every modern bride follows the traditional rules and may choose a different route for planning. Since the wedding is about you and your fiance, it is also acceptable to first sit down with the groom to discuss who the two of you wish to invite. Once the two of you have made an initial list, you can each talk to your parents and arrive at a total number of guests.

Insider Secrets:
If you're not sure which route would be better for you, it may be best to individually discuss traditions and expectations with both the groom and your families. Asking questions and being vocal about your preferences is the best way to avoid stepping on anyone's toes and making anyone feel disrespected during the planning process.

Once you have decided on your number of guest, you can begin to scope out appropriate venues!

Something Borrowed: Traditions from Around the World

As we approach the end of June, we are sad to say goodbye to our month of wedding traditions. However, as we get closer to one end, we are also taking our first steps toward a new, exciting beginning. We will be opening in our new location in less than two weeks and our whole team agrees that this adventure feels surreal. We are all going to miss our location in downtown Warren greatly, but change can only be for the better. We hope you are all getting excited too and we can't wait to reveal our gorgeous new store to all of our loyal customers!

In the spirit of change, we are talking about wedding traditions once more this month, but with a little twist. Many brides today are still deeply connected to their roots and their culture. For example, big Italian, Irish, and Greek families are still around and have generations of wedding traditions that will likely never fade out. However, some brides come from a line of mixed cultures and traditions and choosing which to honor on the big day may not always be the easiest decision.

For this final June post, we invite you to take a tour around the world with us! Perhaps your "something borrowed" can be one of these timeless traditions from a different culture or one of the many that make up your ancestry.

South Africa:
It's tradition in South Africa for the parents of the bride and groom to bring fire from their own homes to light the hearth of the newlyweds. The act is a symbol of unity as they bring together fire and light from their own childhoods into a fireplace they will both share.

Jumping the broom is another tradition from South Africa in which the newlyweds hop over a broom to symbolize sweeping away the past and leaping into their future together!

Poland:
A fun Polish wedding tradition is known as the money dance. Guests are invited to share a one-on-one dance with the bride, for a donation of course. The maid of honor is in charge of collecting the money which then goes toward the honeymoon fund. In more adventurous families, such as mine, the guests are given a shot to toss back before joining the bride on the dance floor!

Germany:
In Germany, it is customary for the bride and groom to immediately test the strength of their union after saying "I do." The newlyweds must prove their ability to work together as they saw a log in half in front of their guests. That sounds like an awful lot of hard work!

India:
In India, it is popular tradition to draw elaborate henna designs on the hands of the bride as well as her female friends and family members. Henna has many spiritual meanings and is generally used to show the intricate bond between a man and his wife.



Ireland:
Handfasting is an ancient Irish tradition in which the hands of the bride and groom are tied together with rope or ribbon to signify their unity. A similar tradition can be found in other cultures and is noted as the root of the famous phrase "tying the knot."

Peru/England:
In place of the bouquet toss, in is tradition for single female guests to participate in a different event in Peru. The wedding cake is made to include several pieces of ribbon baked into the layers. The female guests each pull a ribbon and the one to pull out a ring is said to be the next to marry. A slightly different version is done in England in which each ribbon has a different charm on the end and they are designed to tell the guest's future.

Labyrinth
One tradition that's gained some popularity is one that can be seen in a few different cultures. A wedding involving a labyrinth includes the bride and groom walking the path separately and joining in the middle for their ceremony. At the end, the two walk out together to symbolize the unity of their paths in life.

Which wedding traditions would you "borrow" for your special day?

Photo Credit: matara; buzzfeed; theknot; flatbrokebride

Sources: bridalguide; buzzfeed; destinationweddingmag; labyrinthsociety

Out with the Old and In with the New

It's been quite the dreary week with all this rain, so hopefully a bright new blog post will lift your spirits today! As you've undoubtedly heard by now, Evaline's Bridal is moving! In the spirit of this big change, much of this month is about moving on from the old and welcoming the new. We've been cleaning out our closets, ditching worn boxes and styles, and are so excited for the promises of this new adventure.

But the store isn't the only thing experiencing some big changes. The wonderful world of weddings is also starting to trade old rules for new ones. Take a peak at some of our favorite new fresh takes on wedding traditions.

Something Old, New, Borrowed, and Blue. 
Don't get us wrong, we still absolutely love these traditions, but maybe having 6 pence in a shoe isn't quite as practical these days. Your something blue no longer has to be hidden or subtle. We adore seeing brides go bold with a pair of rockin' royal heels. Or maybe you want to include the tradition without making it a big deal. These cute bridal pins are a lovely way to honor the good luck charms with a slightly modern twist. Pin it to your bouquet or inside your gown; you'll know it's there even if it's not noticeable.

Your Wedding Dress has to be White
or ivory, or off white... One of our favorite bridal trends today is the colored gown. We feature quite a few spectacular gowns in store that are gold, champagne, black and white, blush, and even blue. The possibilities are endless! It's your special day and the gown should reflect your personality, so don't be afraid to expand your horizons.

You Can't See Each Other Before the Ceremony.
We know, we know, it's supposed to be bad luck for the groom to see the bride on the wedding day before the ceremony. But, it's 2015 and they also say it's good luck if it rains on your wedding day. Maybe it's time to shake the superstition and embrace the possibilities. First look photos are adorable and gorgeous. Plus, seeing each other before the ceremony gives you the chance to shake out some of the nerves. If you're still not ready to completely abandon the tradition, we also love the idea of using a wall to hold hands or pray together before the ceremony. Even exchanging gifts or notes in the same way can create an intimate moment for the two of you before you spend the rest of the day surrounded by friends and family.

Your Engagement/Wedding Ring has to be a Diamond.
Brides everywhere are trading the diamond for all sorts of other gorgeous stones, and why not? There are so many other stunning options such as sapphires, rubies, and emeralds. Don't take our word for it, just check out these jaw dropping alternatives!

See more traditions you can twist on The Knot and check back next week for ideas on wedding traditions you can borrow from other cultures!

Photo Credit: somethingturquoise; bridebox; stylemepretty; eragem; zulily; etsy

The History of Popular Wedding Traditions

"Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue." That's right, welcome to June, one of our favorite months! Can you guess why? We are right in the heart of wedding season and each year we like to celebrate by spending the whole month talking about wedding traditions - both old and new.

There are a wide variety of wedding traditions that date back hundreds of years and have evolved from many different cultures. To kick off the month with some fun, here are some stories about how some of the most popular wedding traditions started out!

The Bridal Party:
In Anglo-Saxon days, when the groom was about to abduct his bride, he needed the help of many friends, known as the "bridesmen" or "brideknights." The gentlemen would make sure the bride arrived at the ceremony on time and got to the groom's house safely afterwards. The bride also had women to help her, known as the"bridesmaids" or "brideswomen." It is also said that bridesmaids were to accompany the bride on her wedding day in order to confuse lurking evil spirits.

The Bride on the left, Groom on the right:
When the groom fought off warriors who also wanted his bride, he would hold onto her with his left hand while fighting them off with his sword in his right hand. This is why the bride stands on the left, and the groom on the right.

Something Blue:
In Biblical days, blue represented purity. Thus the bride and groom would wear a blue band around the bottom of their wedding attire, hence something blue.

The Veil:
In the cases of arranged marriages, the groom's family would inform him that he was to marry, but they very rarely let him see the bride before the wedding. After all, if the groom didn't like the bride's looks, he might not agree to the marriage. With this in mind, the father of the bride gave the bride away to the groom who then lifted the veil to see his wife of all eternity for the first time at the ceremony.

The White Wedding Gown:
Until 1840, when Queen Victoria's all-white gown with a honiton-lace veil became fashionable, a bride wore her best dress of whatever color. In Victorian times, white was a symbol of affluence and later took on an aura of virginal purity. Now, white is again a symbol of celebration, as in Roman times.

The Bridal Shower:
The shower evolved as an alternative dowry. In Holland, a bride's disapproving father would sometimes refuse to contribute to her dowry, so supportive villagers "showered" her with household goods.

The Aisle: 
A bridal path strewn with rose petals was thought to ward off evil spirits below ground and grant fertility. White aisle runners are also thought to secure the bride's safety as well.

Do you have any fun stories about wedding traditions? We'd love to hear them!

Photo Credit: partymarshmallow.tumblr; brides.com;

Information: Wedding Traditions and Customs History

3 Things Every Mom Should Know for the Ceremony

Good morning and happy Thursday! I hope the month of May is treating you all well, especially you, Moms! Just in case you need a little pick-me-up or enlightening read, here are the three things every mom should know as they prepare for their son or daughter's wedding ceremony.

1. What to Wear
In my experience, moms often get so wrapped up in helping their son or daughter prepare for their big day that they forget to think about themselves. In other cases, they put off finding the right dress because they don't like the way they look anymore. Well listen up, moms, you are beautiful and the wedding day is just as important for you as it is for the bride and groom. If you think you can just blend into the crowd and no one will notice, think again. While it's true that all eyes will be on the happy couple at first, the second place guests look is to their parents. So, here's a few tips to help you out.

• Don't wait until the last minute to go shopping! We have plenty of gorgeous gowns in stock, but if you need to order something, it can take a few months to come in, so don't wait! 
• Opt for better quality, not a cheaper dress. As I said before, you are important and you should look the part on your son or daughter's special day. Cheaper and lower quality fabrics may not be as flattering on your body, so keep that in mind if you're not as comfortable with your shape. 
• Talk to a consultant. We aren't just trained to help the bride-to-be find her dress, we can also be a big help when trying to select a flattering style gown for any occasion. 
• Consult the bride. You'll want to compliment her wedding colors without getting too close that you blend in with the bridesmaids. Neutral colors are often a safe choice if you're not sure, but a consultant can help you choose a color as well. 
• If you're the mother of the groom, allow the mother of the bride to select her gown first. The two of you should communicate so that your gowns compliment each other and also allow you to fit the theme and formality of the wedding. 

We love these classy dresses from Montage by Mon Cheri

2. What Time to Arrive:
If you're the mother of the groom, you should arrive at the church or ceremony venue with the groom, which should be about an hour and a half beforehand. You can help make sure that the groomsmen and their tuxedos are all in order. If you're the mother of the bride, you should arrive with the bride about an hour beforehand. That way you can help the bride get ready and be part of some extra special "getting ready photos!"

3. What to Do:
For the ceremony, Mother's of the bride traditionally are the first to walk down the aisle and take their seat in the first row on the left, marking the beginning of the processional. The role of the groom's mother depends on what the couple chooses. Typically, the mother of the groom is escorted to her seat by the groom before the processional. However, in some cases, the groom's parents walk down the aisle before the brides parents. It really depends on what the bride and groom envision, so communication is key. After the ceremony, it's common to host the receiving line immediately following the nuptials (Church hallways and vestibules often work best). The brides parents traditionally are placed at the head of the line, followed by the bride and groom and then the groom's parents.

Heads Up to the Bride and Groom: 
The ceremony can be the perfect opportunity for some extra special moments with mom. Make sure your photographer captures those tender exchanges as she helps you get ready. Another way to pay homage to your mothers is to take a moment, before you begin your vows, to present them with a kiss or a rose. The small gesture will be enough to really enhance the beauty of the ceremony and your mom will be more than grateful!

Want to share a special Mother of the Wedding story? We want to hear it! 

Photo Credit: brides.com; emmalinebride; weddingpartyapp

Mother's Rehearsal Dinner Responsibilities

Listen up, Mother's of the Groom, this blog post will be especially helpful for you! In this day and age more and more couples are starting to mix and match which traditions and customs to follow when it comes to planning the smaller events leading up to the big day, such as the rehearsal dinner and the bridal shower. It's important to remember that each couple is unique and that you should always consult the bride and groom before making any plans to ensure you coincide with their wishes. That being said, we're giving you a crash course on your responsibilities as the Mother of the Groom when it comes to the wedding rehearsal dinner.

Traditionally, the groom's parents are expected to host and pay for the rehearsal dinner. The dinner used to take place the night before the wedding, but now it is becoming more common for it to occur up to a few days beforehand (this allows the wedding party some time to straighten out any last minute details before saying "I Do.") If you've never done this before, you may be asking yourself "What is the purpose of the wedding rehearsal?" Basically, the rehearsal dinner is just that - a rehearsal for the big day. It typically involves meeting at the ceremony location so that the wedding party can walk through their basic responsibilities for the day of the wedding. The dinner usually follows after and can be as formal or as casual as you'd like (this is where it becomes important to communicate with the bride and groom). The dinner is a chance for both families to get together and socialize, especially if you have family members from out of town since it may be difficult to get everyone together again in the future.

Here are some timeline tips to keep in mind: We recommend that you book the venue as soon as possible, but generally somewhere within 3-6 months out should be fine. If you're planning something more casual, you may be able to wait even longer, but it's always safer to plan ahead. We also recommend that you send out invitations no later than 4 weeks out from the event, after the wedding invitations have been mailed.

What's most important is to remember not to get too caught up in the planning and organizing that you forget to enjoy the event. It's a time to learn and grow as a connected family and share in the laughter and love that will surround everyone in this happy time. So, eat and drink and spend time with the bride and groom and never forget why you're all together!

P.S. Brides and Grooms: The rehearsal dinner is a wonderful opportunity to hand out any small gifts you have for your wedding party and especially your mothers! We are in love with these adorable ideas that can get mom ready for your special day!

If you still need ideas, check out these links. They have great tips for rehearsal dinner etiquette.
Mother of the Groom Duties
Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

Questions? We'd love to hear from you! Leave us a comment! 

Photo Credit: theknot; etsy; etsy; bridalguide; chelseapatriciablog

5 Ways to Put a Vintage Twist on Wedding Traditions

Happy first week of March, ladies! We are kicking off the month with one of my personal favorite wedding themes: Vintage! Like they say in the fashion world, old trends never die, they simply get recycled. Well bust out the pearls and pop in your DVD copy of The Great Gatsby, because this theme is back in style and we've compiled a list of our 5 favorite ways to put an elegant, vintage twist on some popular wedding traditions.

1. The Bouquet
The bouquet has long been a symbol of fertility and good fortune, and we love the idea of incorporating it into your theme. Adding pearls, lace, flowers made from old books, and even metals are a fantastic way to add a fun flare to this passé tradition.

Bonus: You don't have to worry about your flowers wilting and the bouquet can easily be preserved in a shadowbox or used as a decorative centerpiece for future gatherings!

2. Something Blue
Your "Something Blue" symbolizes the love and fidelity you share with your partner, and there's no better way to showcase these values than with a blue stone wedding ring! With options like blue topaz, sapphires, and even blue diamonds, you can be as subtle or as bold as you want. Check out some of our stunning favorites; the delicate setting and pop of color are the perfect combination of old and new!

Already have your rings picked out? Try a touch of blue with a pair of earrings or a vintage inspired bracelet!

3. The Veil
The veil represents modesty and youth, and was originally thought to ward off evil spirits. If you want to add a retro spin on this tradition, ditch the cathedral veil and opt for an exquisite birdcage veil, fascinator, or intricate headband! These chic headpieces give you the freedom to honor the custom while also getting a little playful. 

Bonus: After you've said "I do," the netting of a birdcage veil can be folded, scrunched, and secured in a low bun for a unique reception-hair embellishment!


4. The Getaway Car
When looking to make a grand departure from your vintage wedding, we recommend keeping it classic; classic car that is. What better way to make an exit than speeding off in a Model T or blowing kisses from a refurbished Volkswagen? Go a step further by stringing decorated, old-fashioned cans to the bumper for an added touch of old school vibes.

5. The Dress
 Traditionally, brides wear a white dress on their wedding day to symbolize purity, but a tea-length gown in ivory might be just the ticket to perfecting the antique look. Furthermore, the great thing about a vintage theme is that it's the ultimate throwback, meaning that your mother's and grandmother's gowns are fair game. If you don't want to wear their dress as is, ask a professional to help you sew pieces of their gown onto yours or create a one-of-a-kind jacket (assuming you get their permission!)

Bonus: Wearing or incorporating a loved one's gown is the perfect way to get your "Something Old" or "Something Borrowed!"

Getting inspired? Tell us about your favorite vintage wedding ideas!

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12 Tear-Jerker Father Daughter Wedding Moments

One of the most sentimental moments of a wedding is when the bride is walked down the aisle by her father, who is guiding her to the next phase of her life. The age old tradition of fathers giving away their daughters didn't start out as a sentimental gesture, however. In fact, it was more of a business transaction than a special moment between parent and child. Now, it has evolved into the perfect photographic moment- usually completed with (happy) tears from both the Bride and her Father!